Fitting in is what almost everyone wants to do. You see people lined up days before to get the new phone or new pair of shoes that just came out. You see people going out of their way, having surgery, spending thousands of dollars to look better to fit in, to be called normal, to feel like they belong, and are accepted. This is what social control has caused. We no longer feel happy with our own body, the way we look, the way we talk, the way we walk, and we don’t feel good about us. So when we step out our door every day, most of us put on a mask, to make society believe that we are normal.
Social control has kept us in this box, to sustain conformity and compliance by everyone. The ones in the box are the rule followers, the ones that follow the latest trends, the ones to try hard to fit in. The ones outside are the rule-breakers, rebels, criminals, outcastes, and seen by others as the weird ones. Either you are in or out, and if you are out, you are automatically labeled, sometimes without a second thought. Some people are very quick to judge, and once they have that thought or sense about you, changing it can be very difficult.
When I was in high school I was always told to sit down, listen, and do work and you will succeed. All through high school that was what I did. All the other students who would skip class, fail classes were seen as rebels, and having no future goals. I was told to stay away from them because they were not normal, they were seen as outcast. Peer pressure is another form of social control that many students go through at some point. Getting tattoos and piercing was seen as being cool, and as a way to fit in, in my school. So as time webt on I would see many more students coming into school talking about their new tattoos or a new piercing they had just got. I would think to myself the pain you go through to fit in.
Formal social control, which is carried out by authorized agents, employees, military officers, and managers, I think has a big influence on us. Authority figures are seen as role models, examples, that we should be like. They know how to act, talk and walk, so whatever they do, we try to do as well. They are seen as the good people, the ones to look up to. Those are the people who tell us that deviance is bad, and unacceptable. If we do deviate we might end up in jail, or worse, dead. They tell us to follow the rules all the time.
People are so afraid of being different or acting deviant, that even the thought scares them. We are taught from the moment we are born to listen and behave all the time. I think that we shouldn’t spend thousands on trying to fit in and being just like everyone else, instead we should try and be ourselves. We were all born different for a reason.