Category Archives: Post-Modern Society

POSTMODERN SOCIETY

To me marriage is between a man and a woman. The man should be the breadwinner and the head of the household. He should make more money than me. We would both have college education backgrounds and jobs. My income should be for bonus things like vacations and luxuries. By the time I am done with college, I will have kids on the brain; I want a boy first. Not only do I want that typical modern family and marriage, I want to have the “normal idea” of what having kids is to most. I want a boy first and then the girl so she has a big brother. Maybe he will play baseball or football in school, she will have many friends, and she will play volleyball.

I have come to realize that due to feminist movements, this is slowly becoming a scenario that is not the norm. Strong female leaders tell me I do not need a man to achieve anything in life, which I know is true. I could just as easily finish school and have my children and all the things that “come with marriage.” These women tell me that men are just repressing me, trying to keep women in a submissive role to them. I do not believe this to be true. I want to be the “submissive one” in my marriage. That is what would make me happiest. I would not mind coming home from work knowing I had to start dinner and do the laundry and clean the house. When my husband gets home, he will mow the lawn, fix the car, take care of leaks, and grill. Maybe sometimes he would help around the house, but I could care less if he did those things that I think are expected of me as a wife and a homemaker. In my current relationship, I am worried that the roles will be reversed to what I do not consider a modern marriage. My current partner is attending school but I am not so sure he wants to finish, leaving me holding the bag of having the higher paying job if he does not complete school. I do not want to feel like I am the provider.

I realize how mundane that may sound, it may seem like I am just looking for a man to take care of me. This is not true. I would still have my own good paying job and hobbies, but I would just know that at the end of the day, I am a homemaker. Being a “housewife” does not mean I have repressed my dreams or am just a child bearer. To me, being that woman allows me to work and come home knowing I have still taken care of my family. Super women are not only those who have high-powered careers and are single mothers, or women who earn the primary income in their household. Super women can also be someone that wakes up gets ready for work, makes her husband and kids breakfast, packs her kids lunch and delivers them to school then heads to work herself. When she is out, she starts dinner for her children and still has time by the end of the day to keep a tidy home. These women are also super women to me. They are not repressed, they have a voice and they have choices just as single mother and career women do. I do not believe that the idea of having this type of marriage is wrong or outdated. It simply appeals to my nurturing side as a woman and my want to make a “house a home.” Just as much as women hate being oppressed by the man, I dislike being told I wouldn’t be doing anything important with my life for choosing this type of life. To me I would be providing the best environment for my children and husband, and this in turn would be best for me. I am not choosing it because I feel it is my only option, or because that is what women do. I would be choosing it because that is what I want as a postmodern woman who doesn’t have to sacrifice her family and modern marriage to feel empowered.

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SOCIAL NETWORK

America is a postmodern society, a technologically sophisticated pluralistic, interconnected, globalized society (Witt122). One of the key elements of a postmodern society is networks. One of the major networks is the social network. A social network is a group or organization that allows people to have a broad outreach of other people, groups, or organizations and indirectly connect with them. “There are over 200 well known social network sites, with over 1.43 billion users. As of February 2013 Facebook is leading and Twitter is a close second for being the biggest social networking sites,” says Christian Arno writer of the article Worldwide Social Media Trends for 2012. The social network is growing three times faster than the overall growth of the internet. To help with better understanding of what social networking is, here a video on social network.

Now that you have seen that short clip on social network I would like to show, how social network affects the norms of our life. A norm is something we do or rules that we just embody as part of everyday life. I believe that the social network has become a norm for many people’s lives today.  Every day, multiple times a day, people are checking their Facebook news feed or reading a status on Twitter. According to the website, Mashable, “In 2006 people on average were spending about 2.7 hours a month on social networking sites. The average time spent now on social networking sites is about 7 hours a month.”. Therefore, I feel like social networking is becoming a norm in the average Americans life.

Many of these social networking sites require you to create a profile, just a few things about yourself. Once you have done this, for example on Facebook you can post a status or comment on a picture someone posted. These profiles allow people to view your values, a collective conception of what is considered good, desirable, or proper to yourself (Witt57).  On Facebook and Twitter, companies have their own page that people go to like or support or read about. A company may post a sale that it is having, and it is for everyone who follows them to see. Furthermore, you can make that page part of your in-group, a group or category to which people feel they belong (Witt108). Your personal in-group pages that you value are seen and can be liked by anybody with the same interests. By having the same interest in something as somebody else does, you two now have a connection through that page, thus making your friends and their friends able to see that page, indirectly connecting everyone in a social network.

 

With social networks being so large, there are good and bad things that come from them. That’s why I believe that their needs to be more social control on social networking sites. Facebook has led to some of the most deviant cases of cyber bullying on the social network. In 2012, I took writing 121, in which I wrote a research paper on cyber bullying. Being the twenty- first century, America is a postmodern society and “90% of teens are online” (Billitteri). Many of these teens are being tormented for what they consider to be the norms of their lives and their values attacked, because the abuser wishes to label them with a stigma, devaluing the person whom they view as different (Witt137).

Social networks have today, in some way, affected everybody  They help us find a job, are a dating service or aid in sharing music illegally. Social networks are growing every day, and growth is healthy for this economy. Growth just means we are moving forward as a society, and social networks are substantial elements for future growth.

Work Cited

Arno, Christian. “Worldwide Social Media Usage Trends in 2012” December 26, 2012 Article February 2013

Billitteri, T.J. “Are Laws Needed to Curb Online Aggression?” Cyberbulling (02 May 2008): 1-36 Article.22 Mar 2012. http://library.cqpress.com/cqresearcher

Mashable, “this is how much time you spend on facbook, twitter, tumblr”. 1-8 Article 11/28/2012 February 2013

Wikipedia. Online encyclopedia/social network/definitions/pictures. February 2013

Witt, John. SOC 2012.1-450 Text Book/ 2012 February 2013

Wikipedia. Online encyclopedia/social network/definitions/pictures. February 2013

Youtube. Videos/ “what is social networking”/ February 2013